"little research has examined developmental changes in parents’ experience and behaviors over time." ---- (The Developmental Parent )
THIS RESEARCH NEEDS TO BE FUNDED LOL
This discussion hits home for me. Unlike many women I know and societies outlook on how women are to perceive motherhood, becoming a parent was and is the most challenging task for me. I was not optimistic about being a mother. My husband and I were fortunate to have had the time to get to know one another prior to becoming parents, 7 years, then my beautiful wild and crazy kid Brandon came along.
This article spoke about the real stages parents go through in being parents. It showcased how different each growing obstacle required a parent to change to adapt and formula new plans to handle the ever so demanding BUT rewarding role of being a parent.
As the article states:
"Children’s growth and development force parents to change their roles. They must develop new skills and abilities in response to children’s development."
DEVELOPING PARENT STAGES
The light gray is my personal take on the specific stage I have went through with my baby boy. 3 stages down 3 more to go, wish me good luck!
1) Parent Characteristics, - age gender, beliefs, personality, history, knowledge of parenting, child development, health = mental and physical
2) Child Characteristics - gender, birth order, temperament, health status, parenting behaviors and roles.
3) Contextual and Sociocultural Characteristics - economic hardship, emotions, culture, parental goals.
All three influences have made an impact on how I am parenting.When I was growing up in a single family household learning first hand what it took for my mother to have to provide for three children, so becoming a mother was never on my ToDoList. At the beginning my fear of parenthood was hit with the common typical phrases of "It'll be great, you natural mother instincts will kick in and will know exactly what to do," or the "Women are naturally more nurturing, you got this!" In many ways they were right BUT in just as many they were wrong.
The economic hardships and reality of what it costs deterred us from wanting to have another, not to mention the idea of being responsible for yet another mini me. ;-) This discussion is one of importance and could always use more and new information to assist us forever learning and changing parents.
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